Harvard Graduate School of Education, Cambridge
I was born in Greece, the home of olives and grapes. I studied Economics and had a successful career in IT before stumbling across Life Coaching and NLP. Today, I’m an NLP trainer, a Life Coach, a wife, a mother, a world traveller. Nothing gives me more joy than sharing what I’ve learnt, and am still learning, with you. Read more
We make judgments all the time. We judge people we know or total strangers. We judge them from the way they write or talk, to how their shoes look like, what clothes they wear, their educational background, their views about meat, hunting, war, spitting, divorce and many other topics. We judge everything.
It is within our own limitations we judge the rest of the world. We compare things that cannot and should not be compared. We judge an incident according the way WE see it, often disregarding most of the variables that make up the incident due to our limitations to perceive and comprehend them. Our judgements are result of our own perceptions of the world.
At some point, many people realize that being judgmental is a waste of time and that they really need to stop labelling the behaviour of a person as good or bad, right or wrong, nice or pitiful and that everything anybody does must have some reason behind it.
When we find ourselves in a judgemental state, we are being self-critical; when we stop being judgemental, we stop torturing ourselves; judgement expresses doubt and insecurity. Non-judgmental means listen to ‘us’ more; be more aware about ourselves and work on our own improvement; take time to re-evaluate our beliefs and values; gain more self-awareness.
Consequently, we feel better and therefore in better physical and mental health.
We progress spiritually, culturally and personally and gain incredible knowledge about other people with different backgrounds and this adds to our personality and life. Accepting others for who they are allows us to feel more comfortable being the person we are. We learn lessons from others and learn to respect their choices in life.
When we take time to understand other people’s feelings and actions, it prepares us better for the challenges ahead.
We experience forgiveness, compassion, peace, giving and receiving support.
Being nice, empathetic and open makes people genuinely want to be with us.
There is space for innocence and warm feelings; more space for things and experiences to settle in, most of which were previously easily discarded.
Our relationships blossom.
Parents often become judgemental of their own children and sabotage their motivation, love for life. Judgement can be already in a look or in a silence. Disapproval can be manifested in a lot of different ways. Instead we can observe your child carefully and with heightened sensitivity, watch for the clues to help us understand his/her behavior. free mind. Believe in the child and then believe in every person you meet. Treat your child with open-mind ness and tolerance and then treat the rest of the world just like your child.